THE SLAY QUEEN: Taking back her crown
THE SLAY QUEEN: Taking back her crown
THE SLAY QUEEN: Taking back her crown.
If you ever find yourself wandering in Kenyan or Ugandan blogs you might just come across articles describing and defining the term Slay Queen and her characteristics.
A female voice over a Ugandan blog explaining how she exclusively is not a slay queen or a male voice over a Kenyan blog confidently in ignorance presenting degratory mockings about what he assumes is the meaning and lifestyle of a slay queen.
So, who is this woman that “dignified” women dont want to be and ignorant men mock?
Their definition would be a woman or girl who is naive and clueless about almost everything, has no goals or ambitions, depends on promiscuity and lives beyond her means. Theyll call her fake and a slut and warn others of her kind. In my opinion such a woman would not have the title Queen.
Today, am here to take you back to the roots of the true meaning of a slay queen. The term slay queen, to suprise the small-minded, means a woman with a healthy self esteem, who can slay any given person by stating their opinion.
She is a powerful, classy, witty and a confident woman who isint easily backed down. A slay queen is typically a beautiful, wise and independent woman. Characteristics of this kind of woman is she is the combination of beauty and brains, yeah, you know that stereotype that women are either beauty or brains… totally smashed and its reality is the slay queen.
She is a beautiful woman with a classy sense of fashion, a ton of self-love and confidence and a smart brain to tone it all up.
The ones who do not accept her call her anything opposite to who she is to perhaps bring her down and they have managed to. Theyve called her slut and undignified for reasons that satisfy their entertainment, ego and even self esteem. Is that how intimidated you are by her? If not then for what reason would you tarnish what she has built up for herself?
Today, every smartly dressed beautiful woman with a selfie in her favourite hangout spot can be categorised as a slay queen but the negative type, the one that presents her as lazy, undignified, clueless naive slut.
But who said a woman shouldnt be able to love herself just to prove shez ambitious? Or that a woman shouldnt wear makeup and dress fancy if she wants to be smart and have a career as well? Who decided that a woman shouldnt want a fancier life for herself, a fancy phone, hotel, car or wardrobe? And if this woman wants a good looking man to match her efforts why must you think she should feel shamed? Why does society expect her to be ashamed for wanting and loving a fancy life if she can get it for herself? Why does it offend you so much that she is living her life for herself and not for your amusement? It does offend you so you attack her sexuality, and use it to potray her as witiless and degrade her femininity.
One may ask what slay queen has to do with femininity and ill answer everything. Slay queen is a term that is all through feminine. A slay queen embraces her femininity with the way she loves to dress on point for anything anyday and anytime. She will wear makeup and have her hair and nails done because that makes her feel good because its feminine. And thats why degratory statements toward a slay queen could be degratory towards femininity. Its not a new thing for society to attack a womans femininity to put her down, its a common weapon one used mostly by the opposite gender, men. Go on social media and you will find that the most people using the term slay queen as degratory term are men using it towards a certain kind of female who falls in the category of beautiful, smartly dressed, classy. You will find comments directly targeting her make up, her body shape, her dressing all which are aspects of her femininity. Just by looking at her, theyll assume (or want to assume) that she has no goals in life, no purpose, double standards and fending off the pockets of rich old men.
You cant ignore the fact that slay -kings who are the counterparts are not judged this way even though they have the same characteristics say they post dozens of pictures as well, are good looking, dress classy and live a fancy life of fancy hotels, cars, etc but are never called slutty, naive, clueless, promiscuous men who live a double standard life, no they are just slay-kings. As a matter of fact, a slay king is what most men aspire to be! Smart, independent, good-looking, and fancy rich. But when a woman is a slay queen shez the opposite shes the selfish one who cant raise a family coz she only loves herself, she the wife that wont love you coz she loves herself, shes the woman who wont date you coz she loves herself, a slut because she wants more for herself.
Men who feel like this often think that a woman is there to exist for them and the moment it occurs to them that they are wrong, that she actually exists for herself then shez down to a slut. They then directly attack and insult her femininity attempting to reduce her to a position where she exists for them.
People like this intend to potray the slay queen as something far negative than her original meaning.
A slay queen is a home builder because she will slay at being a wife and slay at being a mother. A woman who loves herself and is confident in her femininity can never despise being a mother and a wife. She will slay at prayer, because she knows its God that adorned her with femininity and crowned her a Queen.
A slay queen is self dependent and she works hard to earn the fancy life that she deserves.
She has goals, careers, ambitions, dreams and still achieves them in six inch heels and long lashes. She is the ultimate Proverbs 31 woman.
A slay queen is not what you define her. She is what she defines herself.
Whoever those naive, clueless, promiscuous beautiful girls who cluster your social media and fall under your small-minded category are, they aint slay queens. They something else.
Because SlayQueen is much, much bigger than that. Its a mentality. Its an attitude. A character. It’s wits. Its dignity and class. Its beautiful and feminine. Its a Crown.
she’s not your average girl…. You are only lucky to have one in your life.
